About

BetweenFeeds.com is honest, vulnerable, intimate, and unfiltered content expressing the life of a father outside of the lens of patriarchy. For fathers, parents, lovers of health, music, and art, betweenfeeds.com will utilize sound, image, and the written word to build a reliable and meaningful community.

The idea for BetweenFeeds came at a time when literally everything happened between the feeding times of my sons. When their mom was pregnant, I started working on a project called “One Day You’ll Read This” that was very much inspired by the work of Ta-nehisi Coates. My intention, at that time, was to provide my sons an opportunity to experience who I am from angles that they don’t have access to, to tap into who I am in a more holistic fashion, to express the parts of me that identify as many things other than a father. This quickly evolved into shooting photos and videos- “One Day You’ll See This”- and recording music/podcasts/audiobooks- “One Day You’ll Hear This.” 

They were only a few months old when BetweenFeeds as a title came about, and at the time they ate every three hours. By “ate” I mean they had milk from a bottle or their mama. (Shouts out to their Mom for the incredible and miraculous sacrifice of feeding them with her body for 11 months!) It took about an hour to feed and change them all, and then another 30 minutes or so until they were ready to nap. This left about 1.5 hours (per 3 hour increment) to do whatever was needed besides take care of babies, i.e. eating, washing clothes and dishes, sleeping, relaxing, creating, and a lot of the time there wasn’t energy to do any of that. 

A little more than 2 years later, here we are. My kids still eat a lot, but a little less frequently…. a little. BetweenFeeds has taken on different and less literal meanings, and I have been persistently creating things with the intentions of my sons one day having the opportunity to take a glimpse at what life was like from my perspective.

Thank you for being here and being a part of building this community with us. It’s our responsibility to be the change we wish to see, to live the reality that we want our children to experience.

Love.

- T